Areas of Speciality
Befriending our bodies after Childhood Trauma
During my years of life experience and professional experiences, I have developed a few niches that I have worked with a lot and continue to enjoy working with. Additionally, I feel this approach works well for each area of specialty and I have seen great successes using the approaches highlighted above. If you don't fit into a category yet resonate with the approach, please reach out to see if it could be a fit.
Our relationship to our own body is often one great casualty of trauma. Often with childhood trauma, we can disconnect with ourselves in order to protect ourselves from more harm. It is possible to safely create a healthy relationship with ourselves and our bodies.
Parenting Sensitive Kids
Sensitive children need a spiritual and energetic toolkit to help them navigate day to day life.
This tool kit can be easily accessed for parents with some support.
Invisible Grief
This kind of grief is often minimised or not understood by others, which makes it particularly hard to process and be with. Not only are we dealing with the depth of deep grief - we often feel alone and misunderstood in our emotional process.
Invisible Grief
Invisible Grief is the type of grief that is often unseen, unrecognised, or unacknowledged by society. It is the grief that we are often not able to name or talk about and we can hold it silently within our bodies for years. This lack of acknowledgement means we must name and claim the invisible losses for ourselves. Ironically, this can make us feel even more alone. Sometimes it can manifest outwardly in other ways to keep the depth of our grief hidden yet at it's core is often unexpressed sadness that is not understood.
Invisible grief (often called disenfranchised grief) is often difficult to find help to heal. It can feel stuck in layers of emotions or can feel scary to go into for fear of overwhelming emotion or the depths of the grief can be even invisible to us until we explore it within safety and containment. We can even carry this grief for others and not be able to identify it as not our own. As empathic beings, we often carry the wounds of others especially patterns that pass down through generations, cultural woundings, and environmental impacts. Historically, grief has never been private. Sociologically, perhaps even biologically, it is not natural for us to process our grief alone, without the love and witnessing of the tribe.
Why is this form of grief 'invisible"?
1. People don't talk about it
2. Others may not know or understand the depth of connection with the loss or in cases such as miscarriage, may not know at all.
3. People are uncomfortable with others pain and vulnerability and can avoid the subject.
Often the one grieving is left to experience very intense, painful, and complicated feelings all on their own.
Some symptoms of invisible grief and/or unprocessed grief include:
-Feelings of guilt, shame, and failure
-Isolation
-Depression
-Anxiety
-Physical symptoms including headaches, fatigue, digestive issues, and sleep problems
Invisible grief can be different for everyone and have different origins. I have a speciality of working with certain types of invisible grief yet all invisible grief and disenfranchised grief can fit within this healing modality and are welcome and supported with these tools and support. Here the focus is around womb twin loss, pregnancy/infant loss, pet loss, and earth grief. For each, there are different layers of work we can explore to support in the process of grief and help you to recognise the held emotions providing a safe place for release, ritual, and remembering.
The Approach and Areas of Speciality
Integrated into this work is years of shamanic training and indigenous grief practices. Additionally, body centred techniques to keep the work safe and holding the grief process sacredly in the body. I studied somatic grief processing for years in Mexico during the traditional el Día de los Muertos ceremonies where we integrated ritual, somatic processing, and ceremony to hold space for our grief, loved ones, and community.
Vanishing Twin Grief or Womb Twin Survivors
Womb Twin Survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. They started live in the womb with a twin but their twin died either doing pregnancy or around the time of birth.
It is being discovered now that womb twin grief can greatly impact the survivor and they can often live their lives constantly re-enacting the life and death of their womb twin.
Through this type of grief work, we can bring awareness to these patterns and bring healing to this profound type of loss.
Stillbirth, Miscarriage, Abortion, and Infant Loss
Women having difficulty conceiving and/or suffering pregnancy loss are often experiencing tremendous amounts of grief. Some may not even be aware that their feelings are those of grief, because how do you grieve something you never had? How do you grieve someone you’ve never met? This is known as “invisible grief”.
Through using this type of grief work we can safely explore these losses in a safe and contained way. There can be trauma attached to this type of grief and some trauma therapy has been shown extremely effective to compliment this deep grief work.
Pet Loss
If you share your life with animals, you can understand the deep spiritual and emotional bond we form with our pets. They can often be our only source of unconditional love. The loss of our beloved pets can be such a profound loss that is often misunderstood and/or unseen.
Through this work, we can hold this grief with a gentle container of unconditional love and even find ways to connect with our pets after death.
Earth Grief
I believe we all have Earth Grief although most are dissociated to what they feel. Any healing or spiritual journey will come up to this layer of feeling the pain and grief from the Earth. I believe it is important for ourselves and the Earth herself to explore this grief and change ourselves through it. Our path through this work includes:
1) Feel again in all its complexities - the unique feelings and grief we perceive of the Earth
2) Contemplating what has been felt.
3)Taking a different path - becoming the change we want to make.
"You are Earth expressed into Human form. All of us are." - Stephen Harrod Buhner.
Infertility and Childlessness
For the woman having difficulty conceiving — she may be grieving the loss of the family she envisioned, the number of children she planned, the spacing of her children, the plans she made for her future. For the woman experiencing pregnancy loss or stillbirth, she may be grieving the loss of a baby, or the loss of an idea, a vision, or a dream. It is different for everyone. However, the underlying theme is the same: invisible grief.
My Own Story and Journey with Grief
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Over the years of my own healing and growth, I have noticed layers and layers of grief that is often not seen or understood by society making it even more challenging to process. My deepest healing came through an integration of somatic trauma processing and spiritual shamanic healing. Through this work, I offer the same here as an opportunity to heal deeper unprocessed grief through our bodies with connection to spirit and our ancestors, healing deeper ancestrally held grief and our soul level growth at the same time.
I hold space with fierce compassion and the knowing of these depths as I have walked this path too. I often say 'I was created in a womb of grief' as my infant brother died before I was conceived and I lost my twin sister at 20 weeks gestation. This created an imprint of grief in my body, mind, and soul that I have been working with for years. Initially unaware of the impact this grief was having in my life, and I resistance to letting myself release these emotions, eventually through my own experiences of child loss and the loss of my beloved soul dog, I was able to reach the depths of these early grief memories held in my body. The journey continued as I explore my ancestral patterns of grief and worked with my own past lives unprocessed grief. The more I deepened into my own grief, the more I felt the grief of others including our great Mother Earth. I could feel the sadness of the earth deeper than I could imagine. Feeling my heart in the Earths core as I reached into the grief of my own body.
Grief for me is now a part of my life. I feel it everyday and every moment yet I wake up now with more joy and through this work, I am able to find more joy in the journey of this life - feeling truly alive in both joy and sorrow.